When I pictured my life, I never once imagined that I'd be 26 and dealing with the loss of someone who raised me. I'm one of those lucky kids who was blessed with 4 parents and 8 grandparents and a small army of siblings. I never thought of Mike as just my mom's husband or Becky as just my dad's wife, they've always been my parents, no question about it.
Here's the thing about losing someone you love, it sucks. You experience pain like you've never known and you feel like the world is crashing down on you. Your heart hurts. Your mind wanders. Your life changes. You question everything around you. All you want to know is why.
Why him? Why this way? Why did he have to hurt? Why didn't anything help? Why?
It's so easy to ask why but the thing is, we'll never know the answer to that question and being angry and asking why isn't going to make him better. Here's what we can do- we can continue to show him how much he's loved throughout his final days, we can surround ourselves with this great village of people who share our love for him, and we can thank God for every moment that we were given with him.
When you want to ask God why He's taking someone you love, try not to question His plan. We don't know the reason and we likely wouldn't understand it if we did. Instead, be thankful for the time that you were given and make the most of every moment you have with your loved ones. Seek comfort from those who love you and know that your loved one will soon be free of the pain of this world. Trust me, I know firsthand that you're hurting and you just want them to be okay. You know that they won't be in pain anymore but it doesn't make letting them go any easier.
It's hard and it hurts like hell but you'll get through it, right? I don't think this is something that you can ever get over but I like to think that you eventually learn to live with it. Take a little time for yourself and then slip back into your normal routine. Go about your life and know that you've got another angel watching your every move. Look for those little signs that they're there and hold on tight to every memory that you have.
I can only assume that you're here because you either know me (and in turn likely know Mike) or because you're also struggling with the loss of one of your parents. Please know that you are not alone. My heart is broken and I'm asking the same questions you are. I hope the pain you're feeling starts to fade quickly and that you learn how to live with such a great loss soon.
Mike, I love you and I couldn't have asked for a better bonus dad than you. I'm so thankful that you happened into my life 15 years ago and I've loved every moment of it. You worked hard every day to give all of us kids the life that we wanted and we are who we are thanks to you. Thank you for loving us and loving mom in all that you did. You're one of a kind, captain, and you'll be in our hearts as long as we live.
Hi friends! I'm Cally, an Arkansas native living in Nashville, TN. Here's a look inside my life, posts about products I love and probably a few too many Friends quotes!